Have you ever decided to take control of your life only to have your life explode into chaos and awfulness?
Don’t freak out. Take comfort. Things getting worse is an almost predictable part of things getting better.
Jen Sincero describes this phenomenon beautifully in her book, You are a Badass.
“It’s like when you quit smoking or doing drugs and go into withdrawal. Finally, you’ve taken a leap and done something that’s going to massively improve your life, and for days, sometimes weeks, you feel worse than you did when you were a wild child. You’re hacking up all this nasty crap, ridding your body of toxins, shaking, sweating, puking, wondering why on Earth you thought this was a good idea. It’s really fun.
Same goes for when we rid ourselves of limiting subconscious beliefs that have been holding us back and take a giant leap outside our comfort zone. It’s a detox of such staggering proportions that sometimes it can feel like The Universe is conspiring against us–trees fall on our cars, our computers crash, we find our significant others in bed with our best friends, we get our identities stolen, we get the flu, our roofs cave in, we sit in gum
–when in reality, The Big Snooze [ego, fear, the devil, whatever you call it] is creating chaos in an attempt to self-sabotage and keep everything as is, instead of moving forward into unknown, yet desperately wanted, new territory. Every successful person knows this and has been through this.
When taking great leaps forward, life often turns to shit before it turns to Shinola.”
So, if you’ve taken a big leap and decided to massively improve your life, don’t panic when the shiz hits the fan. It’s part of the deal. Every hero’s journey has trials and tribulations. After all, it’s the hard that makes it great. If it were easy, everyone would do it.